“When my father died, I moved into the space he left inside me and found out it was where I belonged” ~ Farland Fish
The death of a father is a life-altering moment especially for a man. He is forced to grow up in that very moment and fill his father’s shoes taking over the responsibility of the well-being of his loved ones leaving precious little time to grieve the loss of the only man he has ever aspired to emulate in life.
This episode begins on a somber note with Ashar losing his father, Baseerat within the confines of the hospital where he is being treated. Baseerat, as though he knew of his imminent death, confides in his son about his concern for Khirad’s welfare due to her innocence and simplicity. The words uttered by him regarding Khirad’s lack of knowledge of the ways of the world and how he fears people taking undue advantage of her simplicity and trusting nature sounds ominous considering what follows in the episode.
Khirad goes to college to pursue her higher studies in Mathematics where she meets Sara’s cousin, Khizer, who is enchanted with her from the very moment he sets eyes on her. The dynamics within the relationship between Ashar and Khirad gradually shifts and changes with these two events – Her singular focus on studies and the presence of Khizer!
In a way, this episode sets a serious tone for the rest of the story to follow.
Different shades of love
Love is definitely not as simple as it sounds. It is a beautiful feeling as long as it is untouched by emotions that can push you to act in a manner that is hurtful to your loved one. Add external factors, and it gets all the more difficult to hold on to the purity of that feeling. Understanding the various shades of love is as important in a relationship as loving itself is.
Passionate and Powerful
“Main eh university apne liye nahi ja rahi, Ashar keliye jana chahti hoon. Main janti hoon woh mujhse mohabbat karte hain,
Lekin ab dil chahta hai ke woh mujhpe fakr bhi Karen.”
Love can be empowering to those who believe in its power. Khirad wants to step up and be worthy of not only Ashar’s love but also his respect. She decides to pursue her higher studies in order to stand tall beside her husband with her head held high and even more so for her husband to stand taller because of her. Her passion for her husband reflects in her passionate approach to her studies and her need to excel at whatever she does.
BUT does Khirad realize that in her passion to prove herself worthy of her beloved, she may be paying a little less attention to her husband’s needs?
Laughter and Playfulness
“Achi tarah dil lagake padna, baki bachchon se nahi ladna, lunch time se khana hai, okay?”
A relationship that thrives on laughing together has a better success rate than those that don’t. Ashar’s playfulness is evident in scenes where he sweetly mock instructs Khirad to behave like a good kid without getting into fights with the other kids as he drops her off at her college.
His attempt at keeping it light can also be seen when he tries to divert her attention from studies to himself by grabbing her books and sweetly requesting her to spend time with him.
Rangmunch cutest moment of the episode has to be the scene where Ashar comes back home in the dead of the night to find Khirad fast asleep. The way he tries to wake her up is playful at the same time reveals his craving to be with his wife the moment he comes back home.
Innocence and Trust
“Ashar, Khirad ka khyaal rakhna. Woh bahut sada hai. Bahut masoom hai. Use zindagi ke bare mein kuch nahi pata”
Khirad is portrayed as someone who is innocent and trusting. She probably does not yet realize Khizer’s intentions in constantly seeking her guidance in studies or the reasoning behind his choice of words while praising her in front of Ashar.
Her innocence and trust in all things good may soon be put to test when circumstances prove to be stronger than her inherent goodness.
Protectiveness and Concern
“Mujhe darr hai ki koi uski saadagi ka najayaz fayada na uta len. Maine apni marti hui behen ko wada kiya tha ki mera beta uski beti ko khush rakhega.”
The most important ingredient in any relationship based on love is the wish to protect the ones you love from harm. Baseerat’s love for his son, his niece, and his sister comes through loud and clear in his words to his son just before his death. An honorable man who stood by his dying sister and kept his word till his last breath that he would protect her daughter, will be sorely missed by us all.
In the face of the events that follow, it will be interesting to see how far Ashar remembers and makes an effort to keep his father’s words and dying wish at heart.
Jealousy and Suspicion (Precap of Episode # 9)
These are undoubtedly the perfect ‘deal breakers’ of a relationship. This is that facet of love you never want to encounter. Entry of Khizer with his intent to cause disruption in their lives has opened up the door to this deadly duo in the mind of Ashar. But, the question is, Is Khizer the only reason for Ashar’s growing insecurity, jealousy, and suspicion?
I think not! I leave the discussion open on what you think those other factors are that has made a gentleman like Ashar suddenly feel insecure about his relationship with his beloved innocent wife Khirad and has let petty emotions like jealousy and suspicion take over his heart and mind.
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